There are several ways to use questions. Sometimes it is helpful to assign one question to a person when they have one behavior to work on. For example, I have a four year old granddaughter that paid no attention to what her body was doing. She is the one who steps on people's feet, knocks over the milk, touches things that don't belong to her, leaves the door open, the drawer open, her dirty clothes on the floor, etc. The first question we worked on was, "Is it yours?" Every time any of the adults in her life saw her grab a toy, drink, phone, etc, that belonged to someone else they asked the question. In less than a week, as she reached out to grab something, she pulled her hand back and looked at the nearest adult.
We still had to ask the question sometimes, but in one month she had control of that behavior. We asked her which behavior she wanted to work on next. She thought about it for a minute, and answered, "What bugs people the most?" We chose the question, " What does the bathroom, (bedroom), etc, look like?" This one took a little longer, but altogether she worked well on the behaviors and at the same time gained self confidence and the ability to tell the truth and make corrections.
Some of the children in our homes have much more difficult behaviors, but asking questions of them also helps them. For example, many children cannot handle instruction of any kind. The question for them is, "Is there a way I could do my job and help you with homework without a problem between us?" or "Can you tell me how I could help?" When children curse at us, we say, "I am here to help, I want to help. I want to listen to you, but your language makes it difficult. Is there a way we could talk without you using inappropriate language?
So, I ask, what is the question? What creative question could you ask to help make things better?