So here we are, with a whole room full of girls who are certain it matters whose fault it is and whether it is fair or unfair. We keep the discussion going by bringing this thought, "Remember, good choices are those that bring us closer to all the people we want to be close to. Bad choices tend to separate us from those people.:
Now we ask them to write down some examples of how they have attempted to control others and how others have attempted to control them. We have them evaluate how that worked for them, and ask them to share their examples.
As the clients share we change up the conversation to also include examples of how they can each control their own behaviors, and how being in control affects relationships that they have. After discussion how it feels to be in control of themselves and then having others try to control them, we look at the circle graph.
Above is the circle graph, and the question to the children is, "How do you interpret this graph?" The idea is that there is no right or wrong answer, but that we can affect our environment as well as enhance or overcome attributes we are born with {heredity}by the choices we make.The exciting thing is that with 40% of your life you can control 60%.