It didn't matter who was to blame?
It didn't matter who started it?
It didn't matter who won?
It didn't matter who was wrong?
How would you make things better?
How would you fix things?
What would your relationships be like?
WHEN YOU WENT TO BED THAT NIGHT WHAT WOULD YOU REMEMBER?
Would you be rehashing the problem, running over and over in your mind how you were right, what you should have said, how you were wronged, how hurt you are or how mad you are?
Would you be at peace, knowing things are all right, order is restored, your relationship is in no danger, and you are content?